For me, the review dredged up an emotional history of eating here. Initially I had to laugh at what seemed a somewhat naive view of the chain restaurant's dull, mechanized wheel of mediocrity ("I watched the waiters in white shirts, ties, black trousers and aprons adorned with gold colored towels. They were busy carrying out bread and pasta.") although I realize that her poker-faced factual description is due in part to her journalistic ethic. (You present the facts.) Her straight-talking is also symptomatic of living in stoic North Dakota farm country where snarkiness--as represented by the anonymous tweeting masses--is akin to peppering your dialogue with a bunch of curse words: it's lazy and it's disrespectful, and these people are nothing of the sort.
Surely Marilyn has reviewed every restaurant in Grand Forks--the good ones, the bad, and the terrible. But as a food writer and chef myself, I had to groan because (surprise) I do not much like chain restaurants, and I always slump when I see their popularity go unchallenged. And yes, in minor metro areas, places such as Fargo, Grand Forks, Bemidji, Detroit Lakes--the towns I drive to when I want to buy printer cartridges or a new pair of jeans--chain restaurants are widely accepted as good restaurants.
Then I had to turn the laughter on myself because as my sister-in-law (and childhood friend) reminded me that when my mother took the two of us to eat at the newly opened Olive Garden in Fargo circa 1986, we dressed up. I can guess what I was wearing: a tight jean skirt, a cropped sweater and pointy velvet shoes with a clicking metal buckle. We thought this new Olive Garden was great--me, probably, because I had ate my first caper; Sarah, most likely, because of that awesome dessert called tiramisu. (For the record, none of us liked the deep-fried breadsticks.)
If I want to explore this vein of my life, the vast pre-fine-dining part, it just gets worse.
Again, when my mother and I went to shop at West Acres Mall in Fargo (1 1/2 hours away) we really looked forward to the mother-and-daughter pitstop we would take at the "new" Country Kitchen. (They built the restaurant right in the mall!) We had a standing order: 13-bean soup and a bran muffin, because "their 13-bean soup is so good." (Sorry, Mom, I know your tastes have since changed, as have mine.)
It was the late 1980's when Park Rapids got its first year-round fast food restaurant--before that, the Dairy Queen and A & W both closed down for winter, as did the independently-run Dixie Drive-In. So when Hardee's came to town, it was an event. Families mobbed the place after church. We stood in lines in our nicest coats and rabbit ear muffs, waved at other families, and sat down with our burgers and fries. My mother extolled the excellent Mushroom and Swiss burger, but I remember being entranced with the curious rubbery texture of the ham on the Ham and Swiss. My brothers and their friends hopped like crickets around the self-serve pop machine, giggling and making "kamikazes." For many years, it remained a family place. My neighbor's mother worked there part-time, and I remember going there after school because she would let us buy raw, un-baked chocolate chip cookies.
Are you still with me?
Even though my own relationship to food has changed radically over the years, I still can understand what it means when people in Park Rapids actually wish for an Applebee's to come to town or, at the very least, a Perkins.
In a word, it's consistency. Here in Park Rapids (population 3,709) we have a couple of good restaurants amid a lot of other disappointing ones. They vary dramatically. One night it's fine, the other you get oil-slugged fries because the stoned cook confused 275 degrees for 375 degrees. (Dude, it's your main heat source. Mark it with some tape.) Also, the service in small independent joints can be bad. Staff smoke breaks are epidemic, leaving tables stranded like icebergs in an empty sea.
Following nights like that, tequila chicken delivered by a server trained to chirp sounds pretty good. Also, and this is very key: rural people, including those in small rural cities in the Midwest, simply don't go out to eat much. They eat at home, many of them quite well. So when they go out to eat, they don't do it with much discernment or any kind of awareness of "the trends." They eat out for a change a scenery, and not necessarily with high expectations. As my mother taught us growing up, "you always eat better at home than you do in a restaurant." Ask anyone from the rural Midwest, and I bet they will tell you that their mother told them the same thing.
That said, eating now in Chicago, Kansas City, Minneapolis, Omaha, Madison . . . is like being in another constellation entirely. I have put 40,000 miles on my car this year driving around this region, eating and researching, and in every regard I have found places equal to the high level of cooking in New York or Europe. I have found surprisingly little that is derivative of the coastal mainstream, and much that suggests an interesting revolution here in the middle of the country.
Of course, that's the cities. But with a little fine-tuning of your perspective and a bit more grunt work, you can eat well in the small towns too. I've found that if I seek out homemade pie, the rest--fried perch, homemade soups, a good hot beef--naturally follows.
At any rate, I am taking suggestions for the best restaurant in Grand Forks, because that town needs some redemption. Please post below. Within a 50-mile radius, please.






